Monday, February 7, 2011

108


Happy Korean Lunar New Year to One and All! it is now officially the year of the rabbit.

We celebrated the New Year by spending a night and two days doing what is called a Temple Stay. Myogaksa is the Buddhist temple we stayed at, it is in the centre of Seoul built on a mountain. Myogaksa is only 100 years old, which is really young in temple terms, but it radiates energy, peace and compassion.

Our leader is this wonderful quirky nun called Yeo Yeo. She is so inspiring and she led us through the initial stages of what it means to be a Buddhist and the life of a monk or nun in a temple. She also spoke about the 108 prostrations that every Buddhist should do every day. The prostrations are made up as follows (however I am open to correction), we have 6 senses (the five that we know plus thought) now those 6 sense can betray us and lead us astray in terms of leading a pure and compassionate life, and because we are not alone in this world we take our 6 senses and we multiply them by the 6 in another person that we may encounter in a day, so that gives us 36. Then, Buddha also speaks of time as being cyclical and continuous with their being no separation between past present and future (a linear (foolish) approach), so each time we restrict ourselves by the 3 tenses we are also limiting our capacity to open ourselves up to our inner Buddha mind. So 36x3 is 108. And there are your 108 prostrations...which convert to 108 bows that must be performed everyday. The bow has to include both your knees, your forehead and your palms touching the floor, a humble and low position to remind you that you are no more than the lowest person in the world. Make no mistake, the bows are strenuous and a killer on your knees and quad muscles.

When you arrive you are given orange trousers and a top to put on, this is your garb for the duration of the stay. We looked like we could have been on the set of prison break, while also looking kinda zen and cool. it was strange, but super comfy. Our first task was to learn about the basic tenents of Buddhism and the 3 minds one has to let go of before you can access your inner Buddha. Which was fascinating, the first layer is your Greedy mind, then your angry mind and finally your foolish mind. We have such an abundance of all three that it is a daunting task trying to let go of all of that...but one can only every try. So we have begun to acknowledge those 3 states of unhappiness. After this talk, we had the opportunity to go to the bell and help the nun gong the bell. The bell is rung twice every day, it is about 12 times at 5am (I say about because I tried to count this morning, but I was too caught up in the view and the sensation of it all that I lost count, my bad) and 7 times at 4:30pm It is a giant ancient bell that has a deep resonating sound that pulsates right to your bones. Like a heavy base speaker, only less aggressive on your senses, this just penetrated right into your body and then reverberated around your skin until the next gong. It was magnificant, and if I had to go after that I would not have felt cheated in any way. The nun chants while she is moving the giant wooden gong towards the bell, 3 at a time we got to place our hands on the wooden gong and swing it with her.

From the bell ringing we silently made our way into the actual temple, chanting room, for their evening service. No talking is allowed, so we duly copied everything the nun did and we have our first taste of doing multiple bows. It is heavy going, but so elevating at the same time. The temple is magical and painted in the Korean Buddhist style. The colours are the Korean national colours: blue, green (mainly), yellow, white, red and black. With a healthy dose of gold. The ceiling and walls were covered in lotus flowers, dragons and Buddha's. The Buddha statue was gold and mesmerising. Sadly that was the only time we were allowed in the temple.

From there we went back into the meditation room and began our own 108 prostrations, with a twist. Each time we lifted our heads from the floor (but not actually the floor, we had lovely mats) we strung a juniper wood bead onto thread. At first my pile of beads seemed to not dwindle at all, but my legs were stinging and I thought my knees were going to give out altogether. But then you get into it and you just relax into it and in no time (45 min) my beads were finished and I had done my first (and not my last) prostrations and I also had my own meditation beads to boot! They smell delicious and are soft to the touch, I never want to take them off. In a slightly stiff manner we all went to eat dinner, which was all vegetarian (my heart was so happy) and scrumptious.

Now came the tricky part. Our first meditation. We were asked to sit in lotus position, which is so difficult, but thankfully I was able to sustain it for 2 out of 3 meditation sessions before my ankles protested too much and I though I was never going to be able to unfurl them ever again. This session lasted 10 min only, but it felt like an hour and throughout that period it was almost impossible to stop the thoughts from entering my mind. We were supposed to concentrate on our breathing and count every breath...so hard. It takes a training monk or nun 2 years to master the counting to 100 without having any other thoughts. Only then will your zen master give you a single word to recite over and over, often the word is 'nothing', because this is the state you want to achieve with your mind - a state of nothing where you can view your mind and actions as if from a distance. Sheesh. It is difficult. We did 2 more meditation sessions this morning, that nothing state is very far off for me.

Sleep time was tricky for me as all the women were in a single room on Korean style floor mattresses. One person snored loudly and I was finished for the rest of the night. I didnt get much sleep what with my own sinus pain and the other individuals loud nasal emissions. So 4:30 rolled around and I was only too eager to get off the floor and back into action. We were not allowed to talk at all when we woke up until after out meditation session. So all morning activities were done in silence, which was bliss. We assissted with the bell once again and then headed on down for our meditation. from there, with the sky still very much without a sun, we went up to learn about the life of the Buddha we all know, who really is only one of the Buddha's. They have a series of 8 paintings depicting the main elements of his life, so Yho Yho taught us about his life and teachings and then we were quizzed. Wonderfully my mom had taught me most of it just through our long chats lazing on her bed or from various films we watched, so I aced the quizz. woot! For our efforts we were each given another smaller set of meditation beads that go on our wrist, so we can have them on us always. Once our tummy grumblings became too loud Yho Yho released us into the dining hall where we ate tons of food to get ourselves ready for our hike up the mountain. So beautiful and punctuated with the history of Korea and how Seoul was built according to Feng Shui between 3 mountains. Korea has such a deep heritage, it is quite astounding.

Our hike included a brief swing on the highest swing in Seoul - hilarious and so much fun, we reckon we will go back to that swing.

Once back at the temple we had our final activity, which was a traditional Korean tea ceremony. Which is surprisingly complex and steeped in Korean Buddhist heritage, it was amazing being a part of that.

Sadly we had to derobe and gather in the main courtyard to say farewell...however we were given the opportunity to meet their zen master! who came out and greeted us and said that we were a special group as we had ushered in the new year with Myogaksa.

The whole experience was magical.

I miss you all and wish you would come visit me, I would take you straight to Myogaksa.

love you

Monday, January 31, 2011

Iron Girl

So.......... in an attempt to shed some kilo's and improve my fitness for the coming hockey season, I have decided to take up running! ;-)

Up to now I have done the PWC 5km, The Iron girl 9.2km last Saturday and the Pennypinchers 10km this past Saturday. Yeah for me!

Only problem is, my times are getting worse!

Anyway , here are some highly entertaining shots of me going over the finishing line. How was I to know that they were photographing this?


Hehehe, My winning time!! ( Not!)
The girls from the office who took part ( and Candice). Oh yes, did I mention that I got a fabulous medal?
P.s. I had to sleep for the rest of the day!

Friday, January 28, 2011

Bad Karma


What, two posts in two days...who would have thought. But this one is a tale of woe.

Yesterday on my way home after work I was rear-ended, but the guy hit me so hard I hit the car in front of me which in turn hit the car in front of it. My glasses flew off my face from the impact. Amazingly, no one except the cars were hurt.

I don't mess around, 5 years of bliss in my citi and I'm involved in a 4 car pile-up on Settlers Way. Miraculously, my car is still drivable, but badly damaged. It's off for the insurance assessment today. News to follow...





Thursday, January 27, 2011

Prom night


So a couple of weeks ago I had a 30th birthday party to go to and the theme was 80's prom. Not owning clothes from the 80's, a trip to Chinatown, Spargs (where the 80's went to die?) and PEP was in order.

Here are some of the results...



Me, sporting a fabulous top from PEP and Mon with something that came from the sale rack at Spargs.

Cath (far left) in a 80-ified bridesmaids dress and Juliet (far right) in another gem from the kiddies section of PEP.
These were dresses that were borrowed. The owner grew up in the 80's made these dresses and wore the black one to her real Matric dance and the blue one to a wedding she attended. And although this isn't a good angle, those sleeves were pointy, but she won the title of Prom queen, complete with crown and sash.
Well, um... yes


Tuesday, January 18, 2011

I've got a feeling........

......that 2011 is going to be the year of gloom and doom for me.
I don't know why, I just know!

31 December 2010 - 5 January 2011: My gran is in hospital (anemic)
17 January 2011 - My uncle Vernon Died (My grans son, My fathers dad)
2 February 2011 - Fudge, my sisters gorgeous Labrador pup, dies of biliary at only 3 months old

Monday, January 17, 2011

December madness

Hi Guys

It’s been ages since my last update, I hope you’re all happy and healthy J
So in December I finally graduated – woohooooo I’m finally a graduate...it’s been long enough!! Here’s a pic of the happy day:
My Mom and I with Marco :)



Then the family went to the Kob for the holidays, twas great. We whaled in the river and paddled and four wheelered and fished and played cards J It was wonderful. And the Tanj came down for a week after a bit of persuading. FYI she is a TERRIBLE paddler and when she was on the four wheeler I could WALK faster than she was driving – frightening. But still alot of fun.

We went on a 4x4 trip one day with the Tanj and I in the little bakkie and the rest of the fam in the other bakkie. Everything was going well even tho it was raining a bit til we turned onto a black clay road and just saw the other bakkie  skidding and sliding all over the place, natch I slammed on the breaks and also started started sliding straight into the gutter. So Stace leaned out of the bakkie in front of us and indicated that we should reverse which we tried to do but we went no where so I switched on the hazards and the Tanj and I evacuated the bakkie which was easier said than done. The super slippery mud made walking quite tricky and the Tanj was going well until she over balanced and to save herself  she stuck out her thumb and somehow managed to support her entire body weight on just one thumb!! SKILL! But even more impressive was my Dad coming to rescue us. He has these massive slops that he was working in an ice skating type of motion which was super effective even if it did look a bit weird J

My Gran spent Christmas with us which was great. We played alot of cards. Our fav is a form of gin rummy which we have called Wild Coast Rummy which is so much fun and pretty addictive!  My Gran also tried to teach us Bridge which was really really difficult and we gave up eventually.

Mom, Gran and I having a whale of a time :)



One day the whole family went up the river; Tarryn and I in one canoe, Stace in another and my Mom, Dad and Gran in a tiny little boat with an engine which we call Titanic 2 (It’s really really small and almost looks like it’s sinking with 3 ppl in it!) Anyway we were going up this small side creek which the canoes were fine in but the motor of the boat was too deep so they lifted the motor up and when I looked back my Mom and Dad were sitting in the boat while my Gran tried to paddle towards us! Poor Gran. BTW the Tanj and my gran got on so well that the Tanj was calling her Gran by the end of the first day!! What a hoot J


After three weeks at the sea I was going insane and went home a few days earlier with Tarryn and made it home in time for Cathicles’  early birthday party which was a lot of fun. Saw Gail and chatted about her wedding and met the fiancĂ©

And in other news which I think you all know I have semi decided what to do with my life; I am looking for a job in a Municipality  for the year but if I don’t find one by the end of the month I am gonna register for Masters and finish it off!!

I am also excited about my Korea trip in July which the Tanj has agreed to come along on...will keep you updated as the plans unfold J
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At the moment I am back in the Cape, came here for Stu’s wedding on Sat which was great fun but I might have had slightly too much champagne and also might have behaved in a semi rowdy and unruly manner...oops.

BTW Bongs is happy and healthy (I’m sure you were all wondering)

Lots of Love
Moi




Friday, January 14, 2011

right, a few facts to update y'all.

A fringe/bangs are not easy to maintain if you have curly hair and are not disposed towards grooming endlessly. I had to buy a hairdryer and hair stuff to keep it looking good. blurgh.

I am purchasing a hedgehog tomorrow. It will be my pet/friend/family member. I am unbelievably excited about it! I learnt the Korean word for hedgehog so I could tell all my students. Actually, let me back track a moment. We have been learning about calendars, birthdays,and 'before and after' this week in my one pre-school class. So the one activity was writing down your birthday and everyone else's in the class and then saying what you wanted for your birthday. Now the teacher is expected to participate in these sessions and so I duly wrote my birthday on the board and when asked what I would like for my birthday I said a hedgehog. well. I just laughed and laughed. Jeong Min (pronounced Jong Min) gave me this baleful look and just said: I can't get you a hedgehog. It was the sweetest thing and so touching. I said she didnt have to I was going to get it myself, but I would really like a pen or something else small.Which made her happy again.

So there it is. As soon as it is all settled in my apartment i will begin photo taking and filming and will post them so you can all see the wonderfulness that is a hedgehog.

Today my one student, pre-school again, Eun Gyeol (this is a tricky one, and I still say it wrong sometimes, but it goes something like this: Oon Gi-ol), looked at me so strangely today when I was gleefully bouncing up and down over receiving a letter from Sarah from when she was in Vietnam (random aside, so it took about a month for that letter to get here, but it only takes 2 weeks for things from home to get here, and Vietnam is in Asia - confirm that that is weird.). Eun Gyoel duly asked me who the letter was from and I told her it was from a friend in South Africa. Then she said, 'teacher why?', and I said because she misses me. This brought about a look of utter confusion on her face and then she said, "But teacher, you go South Africa-Korea, Korea-South Africa (she repeated this many times with full body actions in tow)"...now it was my turn to be confused, and I said "Ummmm, no. I stay in Korea."

AMAZEMENT. JAW DROP.

She was like "You Korea live?!"
"Yes"
"Haa. Really?"
"Yes"
"You no go home everyday?"
"No silly"
stunned silence.
"All teachers?"
"Yes"
disbelieving look. and then: "Teachers all live same?"
which I deciphered as: so all the teachers live together?
"No"

Well this just about rocked her little 7 year old world. It was hilarious and lovely all at once.

Otherwise things are moving ahead fairly smoothly. Had a few hiccups, but feeling good again.

love and miss you all. Please send news.